Let’s be honest! Adulting is exhausting. Between classes, work deadlines, family responsibilities, and the constant pressure to do more, it can feel nearly impossible to keep up with everything, let alone stay in touch with our friends. I get it. You keep meaning to reply to that one text, to schedule a quick coffee, or just send a funny meme — but days turn into weeks, and suddenly you’re feeling like a stranger to people you once saw every day.
Here’s how I’ve learned to keep my friendships strong, even when life is hectic:
1)Showing up doesn’t always mean physically being there. Sometimes, it’s a quick “Thinking of you” text. A meme that reminded you of an inside joke. A voice note on the way to work. These little things tell someone, “You matter to me.”
2)I used to hate the idea of “scheduling friendship,” like it made things too formal. But the truth is, we schedule things that are important to us. A monthly brunch, a quick midweek call, or even a Netflix watch party — putting it on the calendar makes it happen. And when it does, it feels so good.
3)One of the kindest things you can do for a friend is to be real. If you’re drowning in work or just mentally drained, say it. Good friends will understand. In fact, vulnerability often deepens trust. Letting someone know why you’re distant shows that you’re not disappearing — you’re just human.
4)Friendship doesn’t always have to revolve around big events. Celebrate the little wins: “You survived Monday!” “Good hair day?” “Finished your paper?”
When friends feel seen in everyday life, they feel loved. And that’s the kind of love that lasts.
5)We all drop the ball sometimes. Life happens. People get overwhelmed. Instead of keeping score, keep grace. The strongest friendships I have are with people who don’t guilt-trip me when I vanish for a bit — and vice versa. We always find our way back.
6)I have a friend I only talk to on voice messages. Another I send postcards to when I travel. One friend and I share our “Song of the Week.” These little rituals, simple as they are, help us stay connected in ways that feel effortless and fun.
7)There is no perfect time. Reach out when you think of them. Even if it’s 2AM. Even if you don’t have much to say. Even if it’s been 6 months. Just say hi. It’s always better to reach out awkwardly than not at all.
So, if there’s a friend on your mind right now, this is your sign: reach out. They probably miss you too.
The photo used in this blog is AI-generated.